Looking back at all the random posts reminded me how young I used to be; how naive and immature I was. 11th May 2011, 5 mins to the next day. I promise myself to be a better man. 4 years later, I look back and smile.
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
2011
Fast forward and this is 2011. It has been 4 years. 4 long years. I have graduated. I have changed my job (again). I have moved on in life with regard to a lot of things and in term of expectation.
Friday, September 07, 2007
LOVE CYCLE
Sometime when I look back, I still wonder if I can turn back time, will things work out differently?
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said,
"It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are
good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...
Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the
imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing
there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry
the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.
It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your
marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you
can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling .
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said,
"It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are
good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...
Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the
imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing
there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry
the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.
It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your
marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you
can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling .
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
A REALLY SHORT SAD STORY
It is a long moment of silence. Everything seems to just stand still, nothing moved. Right now, there is only you and me. Those words still running in my head, like a bullet shot pain, it raced down to my heart. I could breathe properly. Shock, too shock. Is this it? The end of everything? I simply can’t believe those words, you sound so cold and firm. It seems that the whole world deserted me, along with you. I am left here cold and alone. Where is the love? Where is the hope? Where is the past joy and laughter? Where is your heart? At least I know it is no longer with me.
No matter how hard you fight it, sometimes, things would not work out the way you wish it did. Tears of regret flows like a river. It is not that I am not prepared. I am just too taken aback by the shock. That must be the reason.
No matter how hard you fight it, sometimes, things would not work out the way you wish it did. Tears of regret flows like a river. It is not that I am not prepared. I am just too taken aback by the shock. That must be the reason.
Wednesday, August 01, 2007
BORING WEEK
It has been boring, rather slow and lazy week. Not much work to be done. Nothing pending on hand that needs immediate attention to, and best of all. No freaking PROJECT. It's all me, staying in my humble seat, facing my office PC. I basically can't find anything else to do Actually there are stuff, but honestly, I jus cant be bothered.
2 mintues plus 5pm... I am all set to rush home... MAPLE time!~ wohahaha....
Need a holiday, away from this boring life. Just wanna take a break before all hell break loose...
2 mintues plus 5pm... I am all set to rush home... MAPLE time!~ wohahaha....
Need a holiday, away from this boring life. Just wanna take a break before all hell break loose...
Friday, June 22, 2007
What kind of kid am I?
What kind of Ben and Jerry Ice-cream am I?
What kind of Superhero am I?
| Your Inner Child Is Angry |
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What kind of Ben and Jerry Ice-cream am I?
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What kind of Superhero am I?
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Wednesday, June 13, 2007
LOOKS
Today’s topic is about looks. What is good looking? Beautiful? Pretty? Handsome? Cute or sweet? I shall classify them all as beauty. I think there are 2 types of beauty. The first type is those whom everyone agrees that he/she is a good-looker. Someone who has that special feature on their faces to be outstanding, in a positive way, of course. The other type is without a guideline, a fixed definition, more of “beauty lies in the eyes of its beholder”. One person may think that this lady is drop dead stunning, but to another person, she maybe too much for him to take it.
So when a person tells me that, “hey, I met my wife at blah blah blah… well, it’s love at first sight. I knew it gonna be her.” At the back of my mind I will like, “Ya right, more like lust at first sight.” Humans are complicated creatures. We can react to things by either emotionally or logically. In the above case study, I believe that he reacted emotionally.
When a guy sees a beautiful lady, what is the first thing in his mind? I seriously don’t know. The most politically correct answer is: get to know her. But I say, the truth is deeper than its surface. So, that brings me to a question. Is good look a blessing or a curse? What people see is whatever on the outside, what about the inner self beauty? Gone. Just take a good look at our famous Paris Hilton. No doubt she is blessed with good looks and nevertheless, rich (yes, I do mean filthy rich) parents. But it does not seem help much to build what’s inside. She is simply a blond bimbotic celebrity-wannabe. She might score high on the outside, but whatever beneath those foundation, mascara and perfume, it’s empty and hollow. But hey, still, everyone can’t deny that she does have looks (very personal point of view) and guys flock to her (maybe more interested in the $$). So whether good look is a blessing or a curse, it all depends on your fate and how you handle situations.
So when a person tells me that, “hey, I met my wife at blah blah blah… well, it’s love at first sight. I knew it gonna be her.” At the back of my mind I will like, “Ya right, more like lust at first sight.” Humans are complicated creatures. We can react to things by either emotionally or logically. In the above case study, I believe that he reacted emotionally.
When a guy sees a beautiful lady, what is the first thing in his mind? I seriously don’t know. The most politically correct answer is: get to know her. But I say, the truth is deeper than its surface. So, that brings me to a question. Is good look a blessing or a curse? What people see is whatever on the outside, what about the inner self beauty? Gone. Just take a good look at our famous Paris Hilton. No doubt she is blessed with good looks and nevertheless, rich (yes, I do mean filthy rich) parents. But it does not seem help much to build what’s inside. She is simply a blond bimbotic celebrity-wannabe. She might score high on the outside, but whatever beneath those foundation, mascara and perfume, it’s empty and hollow. But hey, still, everyone can’t deny that she does have looks (very personal point of view) and guys flock to her (maybe more interested in the $$). So whether good look is a blessing or a curse, it all depends on your fate and how you handle situations.
Wednesday, June 06, 2007
SAMUEL IS RANDOM
If you just realise that, gosh, where have you been?? Yeah, I do admit that I am rather random at times, popping words of wisdom without rhyme or reason. Or you can see me smiling to myself out of the blue, no worries; I am just experiencing some silly mind game.
Have been cranky for the past few hours… If this continues, I am so damn sure I gonna fail Project Management… Shit! Can some kind soul just go for this paper on my behalf??
Have been cranky for the past few hours… If this continues, I am so damn sure I gonna fail Project Management… Shit! Can some kind soul just go for this paper on my behalf??
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